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Conflict coaching

Want to avoid conflict & misunderstandings? Keep talking.

As a coach working with people in all sorts of fields from CEOs and senior managers to entrepreneurs, I am present in a wide range of conversations covering many specialised topics.  There are many, many commonalities which I guess is no surprise as we are all human facing similar challenges.

One common theme is communication. Or lack of it.  Time and time again, I see people suffering in silence, making assumptions about others and how they’re thinking  which lead to misunderstandings and resentment – and conflict even, which is something most of us want to avoid.

Why do we not set up that chat? Why do we hold back our thoughts, not vocalise our observations? Why do we let things go unsaid, assume we know what’s going on for others (or not want to know), why is it easier for many to ignore what’s in front of them and bury their head in other work?

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unknown to known coaching

Unknown to known : making change easier

Unknown  known

Having the courage to face change

Nothing is so painful to the human mind as a great and sudden change.

– Mary Shelley, Frankenstein

What is it about change that is so painful? It happens to us all the time and yet we cling on to things in the hope we can somehow avoid it. We dearly want things to remain the same and ignore the fact that change is one of the most constant aspects of life. As Heraclitus said “there is nothing permanent except change” and he was right, wasn’t he? If you find change uncomfortable, it can add a challenging layer to all that you do and that happens to you.

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hunt the good stuff

Actively seek out the good stuff

Hunt the good stuff

As a coach I work with many hard working, often ambitious people who want to be clear about what they want and how they’re going to get there. In a competitive world, entrepreneurs, leaders, heads of business know they must keep on going, persevere, never give up if they are to succeed.  When working over long periods in this way, it’s easy to get ‘stuck’ in a pattern of keeping their head down, focusing on the targets and being extra aware of obstacles or challenges that might get in the way of success.

Changing the perspective to actively seeking out the good stuff can transform the way we do things and increase our chances of success. It can make us easier to work with (it’s not easy working for a boss who only sees problems). It can help make us more resilient.

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Questions about coaching

Coaching Q & A

You might have got as far as thinking that working with a coach could benefit you, and you might have started doing a bit of research.   There are many coaching services on offer and so many different titles, terms and descriptions, it’s easy to be confused about what might work for you.

Here are some, hopefully, useful answers that might guide you towards choosing the coach to work with.

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Coaching – an indulgence or investment?

Have you considered coaching as a tool

to bring focus and accelerate the process of getting where you want to be? Has the fact that it takes time and money put you off? Then you might consider hiring a coach to be an indulgence.  Read more