confidence tips

Self confidence – how to build it

Confidence is something that pretty much everyone struggles with. Some people are very good at hiding it and coming across as confident, accomplished people.  I can guarantee you that when you get them to a safe space where they can talk freely, you’ll hear all sorts of self doubt and worries.  But they’ve learnt that to achieve what they want, they’ve had to work hard to overcome these and dive in regardless.

When I discuss confidence with coaching clients, some will say they don’t want to be too confident as that means they’d be arrogant.  I think this thought holds people back too. It’s as if suddenly, they’d go from quiet, self doubting and humble person to super arrogant, shouty one. It’s really important to challenge this belief as the likelihood of this happening overnight is pretty low.  They are still in control and still able to decide how they come across.  Having self belief makes it all a lot easier.

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fear of what people think

Is worrying what others think holding you back?

We all worry what others think to one extent or another. It’s normal. However, when this worry stops us from getting on with life, business and doing the things we really want to do, it’s time to challenge this thinking.

If you haven’t got time to read, you might prefer to listen to a podcast on this.

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Coaching and fear of failure
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Is fear of failure holding you back?

Are there things you want to do, to change perhaps, but something is holding you back? I’m fascinated by what holds us back, what gets in the way of us achieving what we want and will be looking at this over the next few posts. One theme that comes up over and over during coaching conversations is the fear of failure.

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What qualities make a good CEO

What makes someone a good CEO?

A  question that comes up regularly in my meetings as a leadership and executive coach is what makes someone a good CEO.

Whether a founder CEO or not, there are certain qualities when it comes to leadership, communication and behaviours that increase your impact as a CEO and indeed, when adopted and honed, can make life a lot easier and less stressful.

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strategic thinking

Strategic Thinking

If you’re in a senior role or as a business owner, you may be thinking that the days are never long enough and the to do list is never done. Demands from staff or your team may feel relentless, the interruptions never ending and if anyone mentions planning or strategy, you feel things area bit foggy at the best or a feeling of panic sets in at the worst.

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Coaching for change

Time to change the script?

What script am I talking about?

You know, the script that runs inside your head.  Sometimes it’s quiet and in the background, sometimes it gets really loud and makes it hard to think straight.  We all have it.  Many don’t realise it’s there, don’t hear it, others notice and some manage to challenge it and make changes. Read on to find out what we can do about it.

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coaching for business owners

What it’s like working with a coach

Working with a coach can be transformative – but it’s hard to decide to go ahead if you don’t know what it involves. I thought my own experience of working with a coach might help. About 15 years ago, I was working in and running Papadeli in Bristol with my husband Simon. I had been to the US on an entrepreneurial/ business growth training course at Babson College, sponsored by the UK government and was offered business coaching when I returned. I knew nothing about coaching. I was busy with Papadeli and 2 very small sons. I didn’t really have time to look into coaching and find a coach, let along give up the time to actually meet with one regularly. I dismissed the idea at first, but something kept on telling me I needed to look into it.

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Saying yes to everything? You should seriously stop.

Why we need to thank people for saying NO as well as YES

Saying yes to everything might seem like a good idea sometimes.  It can expose you to new experience, open new doors. But saying yes to everything can also be hugely disadvantageous. Sometimes it’s a very good idea to be more mindful about saying yes automatically and start saying NO.

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Stop worrying about what others think

Worried about what people think?

Do you find yourself worrying about what people think? It can be paralysing and affect much of our decision making. Read on to find out more about this and what you can do.

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making things happen

Making things happen

It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.

Leonardo da Vinci

Sometimes things don’t progress as you’d like. You might not be getting the attention or support you need for your project or business. You may be frustrated at work and dreaming of promotion or another job. You might just be a bit bored with life even. You might feel that you are not making things happen.

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