confidence building

Quick tips for self confidence

How do we become confident individuals?

In my work as a coach, be it with senior executives in all sorts of organisations, managers, company directors or sole traders, no matter how successful they are, most  lack self-confidence.

Outwardly, these people often seem self-assured, with a healthy dose of self esteem. They seem to know what they’re doing and where they’re going, but as soon as they sit down , they tell me about their doubts and anxieties. They worry about what others think and many confide in me that they are “just waiting to be found out”.  Many successful people are concerned that someone will find out that they are faking it. They fret about being exposed as someone who doesn’t know anything and should never have been given the job! Read more

Self help books – Feel the Fear…and Beyond

In my journey through the charity shop self help books, I came across Susan Jeffers’ follow up to her successful “worldwide bestseller” Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.  I had read this and can’t remember that much about it to be honest.  But, I do like the title and it sort of captures the essence of the book pretty much – that instead of shying away from uncomfortable, ‘out of our comfort zone’ situations, we need to just go for it.  The sense of achievement afterwards is usually huge and that particular situation becomes just a little less fearful. Read more

The Sedona method

The Sedona Method – personal growth book reviewed

Self help books – can you do it yourself?

There are so many self help books out there.  From strategies for assertiveness to how to get the job you want and being successful, there is a book that claims to help you to do it.  As a coach who’s into self development, I decided it would be interesting to read some of them and see how effective they can be.

So, following a visit to my local Charity book shop – which has several shelves of used self help books, I set about my self help book project.  I did wonder why so many of these books are given to charity shops – some of them hardly used… is it that the happy readers have now improved their lives and relationships and have generously chosen to pass on the key to their success? Or is it that they have bought the book with all the best intentions and found it, months later on a shelf, realising they may never do anything with it, and had a clear out?!


The Sedona Method is a strategy for getting rid “of your emotional baggage and live the life you want”.  Hale Dwoskin the author, learned his craft some thirty years ago, from Lester Levenson “a man who had mastered life’s greatest challenge”. He suffered from serious health problems and the doctors had given up on him.  Instead of giving up himself, Lester focused his mind and  came across “the ultimate tool for personal growth” which was a strategy for “letting go all inner limitations”.  The Sedona Method builds on this and encourages readers to “release”  or “let go” of all negativity and all tendencies to control others.

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