Conflict coaching

Want to avoid conflict & misunderstandings? Keep talking.

As a coach working with people in all sorts of fields from CEOs and senior managers to entrepreneurs, I am present in a wide range of conversations covering many specialised topics.  There are many, many commonalities which I guess is no surprise as we are all human facing similar challenges.

One common theme is communication. Or lack of it.  Time and time again, I see people suffering in silence, making assumptions about others and how they’re thinking  which lead to misunderstandings and resentment – and conflict even, which is something most of us want to avoid.

Why do we not set up that chat? Why do we hold back our thoughts, not vocalise our observations? Why do we let things go unsaid, assume we know what’s going on for others (or not want to know), why is it easier for many to ignore what’s in front of them and bury their head in other work?

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Get out and happen to things!

It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.

Leonardo da Vinci

I love that quote by Leonardo da Vinci. It really makes me ask myself if I’m being too passive and expecting things to happen to me. In that state, things rarely do happen how we want them, do they?

This post takes a look at that stuck feeling, that feeling of inertia, that something needs to happen to bring back your energy and drive. I have a podcast on this if you prefer to listen.

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managing people

9 tips to make sense of managing people

Listen to this on my podcast

You might find this useful if you’re a business owner managing people, have responsibility for managing teams as well as if you’re part of a team and want to get the most out of others and yourself. Working with people is rarely straightforward – and at times it can get downright puzzling, frustrating and infuriating even. That said, team work can be inspiring, a great opportunity for learning, for creating an energy that moves the project or business forward and let’s face it being part of a team can be really enjoyable.

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Impostor Syndrome

What is impostor syndrome and can coaching help?

Do you suffer from impostor syndrome?

You can listen to this on my podcast.

A number of clients that I work with say they feel like a fake, an impostor at work.  They dread the moment when they will be found out and everyone realises they shouldn’t be there.  These feelings, beliefs and behaviours have been identified as Impostor Syndrome or Impostor Phenomenon and awareness has grown substantially over recent years, with many more people identifying this as one of their challenges. The term was first used in an article written by clinical psychologists, Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne A. Imes in 1978.  It is present in many leaders and senior executives who have achieved a great deal and are respected by their peers – no matter how successful they are, or how many times they’ve been promoted, they still feel deep down they are there by chance.

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Limiting beliefs

Are your limiting beliefs holding you back?

The human brain is amazing.  It can learn languages, identify symbols and make sense of them, solve mathematical and scientific problems, remember song lyrics from years ago. Truly an amazing thing to behold.  BUT it can also be highly simplistic.  Like when it fails to differentiate between fact and fiction. Between beliefs and reality. And that’s what I want to look at today.

You can listen to this on a podcast.

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